Ahh, Choc, dude...all of this seems counterintuitive...if it didn't then there wouldn't be any problems in our relationships at all because we'd know all the answers. See what I'm getting at? You're knee jerk reaction is to pressue and try to elicit responses from her to make YOU feel good. Have you ever thought about what she might be feeling? I mean honestly feeling? Like maybe her life is turned upside down right now and she cannot give you the answers you need because, well, she's confused about her own life?
When you first met you're wife, were you needy? Did you ask her all the time if she really loved you? Did you seek a committment from her on the first date? Think about it man. You took things slowly, built up to a deeper level of intimacy and so on. You weren't desperate or needy, you were cool as a cucumber.
Well, that's where you are right now. You have to drop all expectations and go back to the starting line. You've got to allow her space to figure out her own sh*t right now and you chasing after her like a puppy dog is only making you a very unattractive choice right now.
I'm not trying to be mean and if this sounds like I am, then I apologize. But you HAVE to get the point if you ever have a chance of saving this.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
