But that's just it, Cadesmom -- I don't FEEL like I'm in control, and so far, I'm not. I've given her too much of the power, and tomorrow at lunch, I need to take it back.
I think that once I get some sleep, and get my brain around this difference between "courting" and "needy/grabby/pleading" thing, I can start to become more tactical.
That's it: I understand the strategy, but don't understand the tactics nor even have enough undertanding about these dynamics to DEVELOP some good tactics.
The strategy is to make myself more attractive to my wife (thru strength and leading), while protecting my family and my own interests, and clearly communicating -- and enforcing -- those boundaries with her.
