Ok, here's the latest email I sent him. I realized right after I sent it that it is all about *my expectations.* Oldtimer, was it you that brought this to my attention? Maybe some other people did too. So, this is clearly a thing with me. Am I supposed to just let it roll off my back? (Don't want to hear that - don't want to do that) I will do it if it's necessary though. Try at least. Anyhow, here's the email:
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I totally understand that you are at work and cannot talk long when I call. I really do.
However, you had been reciprocating every single bit of conversation about the kids, etc. It doesn't make me feel good when I initiate something nice between the two of us. (I bought stuff to make a nice dinner and some margaritas) and all you say is "ok." Then when I say something about it, you immediately go to "i have to go." It doesn't take long at all to say, "That sounds like fun, thanks! Hey, I better get off here now."
See how different that is? When I initiate something positive, I want an equivalent response from you. Am I asking too much? I love you. I like doing small, loving gestures that make you (and me) feel good. But I do want you to notice. Hope that sounds fair to you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I have a feeling I'm gonna get a 2x4 for this? I feel like it is reasonable to expect reciprocal positive behavior, but maybe not. Help me here.
