Hint, it probably isn't housecleaning. even though you should be helping with that anyway
Ha! Nope, not that. I work from home and do most of that, together with all the kids' school runs/lunches/dinners/playing/bedtimes/laundry etc, etc.
She works full time, and admittedly only left her last job and started a new one 3 weeks or so ago, so that could be getting to her right now, too.
We've talked some about what happened, and I've conceded that our financial problems and my lack of work took my focus away from the marriage to some extent a couple years ago, and also another part of the problem was the house we were living in - it was falling apart around us and we didn't have the ready cash to fix it up. We also have two really young kids and she readily admits that she's not great with kids, period. There were a lot of aspects of her life that she was super-unhappy with at the time, and she's not a great 'talker' in that respect so she didn't really make me aware of it all. Then losing her dad hit her harder than she'll admit.
I'm not in any way excusing what happened, and she withdrew from the marriage a lot at that time, too, but I guess the EA was purely an escape from a lot of things, together with a little flattery from a young kid at *just* the right (wrong?) time.
However, we're now out of that old house and living in one she really likes as she found it herself just before we got back together (I like it, too), we don't have the money issues, the kids are a little older and a little less demanding, and life is beginning to look up again.
If she didn't want to be with me, she didn't have to make the first moves in terms of reconciliation. That's why I'm so confused about the no sex thing.
