Dr. Doobson has a book and articles on "Love must be Tough". Essentially, I think he trys to convey that the spouse that has been cheated on must be willing to make it clear that life goes on and that you will not be begging her to do anything. Essentially, you must become tough. He has a speech even that you can give to her, making it clear that you will survive just fine without her but at the same time you will not break your own boundries. In other words, you must set her free. This may allow her to come back on her own, or it may allow her to leave for good. But do not allow her to see you in any weakened state!!!!
