I am reading ALL of your posts, and will respond, but I'm just totally slammed at work today.

My wife just typed me the following words, but for some reason hasn't sent them to me yet:

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thanks Choc,I know all this honesty is difficult for you as it is for me. I have been wrestling with a lot of things over the last few years too. Donna's death started it, then my two best female friends in this whole world, daughters are leaving me.my I am beginning to see the road to the empty nest and I don't like it at all. ,I know we'll talk more at lunch tomorrow, but I don't want to lose these thoughts.I need to let you know where I stand right now, and I don't want to hurt you, just figure out where my head, heart and emotions are. I don't know how I feel. I feel sad when I think of what the kids would feel if we didn't make it. But, I can't let that be the deciding factor in our decision for whatever that will be. I feel right now, that maybe we need to start over and see what's there. Five years ago, we had this problem, and although we thought we fixed it, we only put a bandaid on the wound. And as we can see, we didn't fix anything. I c't do that again, and then find ourselves five or more years down the road in the same situation again. I feel like between all what I previously mentioned and the fact that our marriage is not in a good place, is causing me to be at a crossroads in my life. I mean neither you nor I are getting younger. tWe need to decide which way this is going to go, and as difficult as it is to make that decision, it has to be made for good this time. I feel this is going to take a long time to figure out. This isn't something we'll attempt to fix in a month. Right now, I'm feeling like the best thing for us is some space from each other. We can take some time and see a counselor like you mentioned, and see where we go. I know it will kill the kids, but we I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I truly feel that this is best for us while we are sorting our thoughts.
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Where is she planning to go??? Our daughters' new condo? Her parents? OM's???

I KNEW this was going to happen. And to answer someone's question, YES, this DOES feel worse (than indifference).