I suggest you stick to your exit plan and don't waver from it. If this woman TRULY wants your R to work she will do what it takes to get this R back on track...if that means taking a step back and working on issues then that's what she needs to be willing to do. I can't get away from her comment that keep referring to you just getting a raise, and that you make more money. The fact is AN, she's a grown woman who has kids....she needs to be responsible for hers and their bills....no one else. Same goes for you, you have your own responsibilities and your own children to think about. Her financial demands take away from your own children, at the very least from your time with them.
I have a gut feeling that if you stick to your guns financially with her and continue the exit plan....you are going to see a lot more dramatics, and I bet she ups the sex ante too.
