It's been awhile

[Heywyre]

"well, here we are. Look, I know you have tried as hard as you can and as much as I want to stay married, I accept that you do not and am letting you go."

Hey, I like that one!! That should shock her into reality.

I know it scared the living crap out of me when I knew I had to stop running in circles and let go. I had heard for too many weeks and months "if we aren't together down the road" from him that one day I snapped and I said "ok, if that is what you want, let's get to it right here and now". The look on his face was one of shock. I calmly took all the financial papers (that he usually handles) and he said "what are you doing?". I said, "sorting things out to see what each of us will be responsible for paying."

I went upstairs and I am sure he didn't think I was doing anything but I came down about 20 minutes later and said "here you go, this is basically your portion, anything extra such as food and personal items will be your responsibility". He was stunned. I had never, ever done anything like that before. He kinda gave a nervous laugh as if he thought I was kidding, but he quickly realized I wasn't.

He took one look at the paper and said "I can't afford this". My response - "that's not my problem".

He then started talking about having to get roommates etc. and I totally didn't respond, and he started to sweat - literally.

What brought this to a head was the fact he wasn't being open and honest with me and I had enough.

He immediately began to back down, reluctantly said he would give me cell and visa bills and told me he didn't want to separate and wanted to work on our M.

I was hoping I wouldn't have to push him to the edge of the cliff but I did, and it worked.

Since that time, things have been going along pretty good. Not perfect, but we're working on that - lol

I know we have a long road ahead of us but sometimes you just have to stand your ground