Lastly, in what your wife said to you. My interpretation was that she gave you information that indicates she is otherwise involved. Further, the texting is a dead giveaway.
You wife is having an affair. That is simply something additional for you to deal with. You knew things were headed that way anyway. Don't fret or sweat or fall apart, just deal with the facts. What ever you do, don't sit back on your ass and expect your situation to self-resolve. It won't happen. Going off the deep end emotionally won't help either, it will only prolong your pain.
Agreed, agreed and agreed.
Choc, one more thing - a man who calmly and decisively stands up for his family and his own integrity is Hot with a capital H. I very, very much doubt OM would have anything to offer that would even remotely rise to that level of attractiveness.
I think you're doing great, and I admire what you're doing with all my heart. Now, be that man that you've already shown you can be.
