Choc: don't start reading into things such as her emails or what she says or does. You guys have been on a totally different playing field for YEARS.

You need to slow down or you are going to appear needy and you will end up pushing her away I think.

You have read DR, right? If not, drop everything & get it from the library or something. It really has a lot of good info and tells you how to handle yourself and different sitch's.

Now that you are at this point, we will all tell you -- IT'S NOT EASY. But you have to have patience and just love her and show her that love, but you can't over do it either. There is a delicate balance you have to keep between pulling her back and pushing her away.

You WILL feel and get desparate b/c you want everything to be ok NOW, but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Patience, love, understanding, patience . . .

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10