See...this is what I'm referring to as insensitive
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"But I just want to remind you gal's that it's still real important for you both to contemplate what YOU both can do to improve your sitch's, and not just put all the blame and responsibility on your H's."
I'm sure you haven't gone back and read through my posts as there are waaaaaaay too many of them....BUT by making this statement you are assuming that both Heywyre and I don't contemplate what we can do to improve our sitch's and you are assuming that we put all the blame and responsibility on our H's.
Speaking for myself, thanks...but I don't need that reminder. I am constantly looking for ways that "I" can improve the situation by looking at myself and my own behaviors, and things that I do have control over "such as my own actions in the marriage....because of this situation I feel I have grown and developed a great deal with has improved our relationship. Also, even now...knowing my H has W/M...there is no "blame" to place on him and the responsibility isn't his alone, it's ours. We now have an idea of what we are dealing with, as a result I am more aware of what behaviors I need to avoid in order to hellp aid my H change behaviors of his that he wants to change.
FWIW COG, I don't think you intend to come across as insensitive...and I'm probably just too sensitive to this issue myself, because I do know everything I've worked on, tried, persevered through, talked about, researched and as a result have been dealing with my entire relationship with my H.
