He is also very hurt, you must remember that, he is afraid it wont work (he WANTS it to work, but is hesitant) That's the #1 reason many men don't come back, they think too much damage has been done and that the W hates them (despite all my support and understanding, my H was convinced I hated him, and even after he came back he thought I would extract my revenge on him at some point and couldnt' get close to me emotionally)
And stop the divorce talk! he actually does show you he wants back and wants to work it out. MLC takes a while to wear off, and he's prob realizing now his poor choices (poker), he is afraid. Agree w/him that you guys should keep dating, asking him if he would go to counceling.
Are there couples out there that really come back from this? ======== Yes, and from worse too. If you still love him and want him back then give yourself a time limit as of how long you'll wait, if there has been progress then extend it. After MLC men need to put themselves together again, and maybe he is doing just that, and that's why he isnt' ready to come home.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
