I'm with Heywyre - I can tell you my brother acted a little similar. Of course, he was a WAH and he was trying in his own way to make me aware that no matter what, I would be okay.
I think you handled this AM well - and old habits do die hard so don't beat yourself up too much. The key here is you recognized what was going on and were able to recover. I'm sure the lot on your W's mind is that the two week "end of the line" marker is coming. Best really now to stand back and let her own that.
What would you think if you just let her stew for a couple weeks - live your changes and live life with as much tenacity and vigor and then the day after the kids get out of school say to her "well, here we are. Look, I know you have tried as hard as you can and as much as I want to stay married, I accept that you do not and am letting you go."
This might be over the top so I was hesitant to write it - but I only know from my own experience that I needed to do this. There was no incentive for my W to make a decision and so I made it for her. It was in that moment she began to REALLY understand what she was losing - that the bus was leaving....
Just some thoughts...
Sven
Wow. That is a lot to think about. Yeah man, I have no idea where that would go. One side of me thinks she would be ecstatic. Maybe a little scared just due to finances and by her own admission, because she wants this she will be the bad guy to the kids. She does believe that when they are older they will understand.
Yeah, that is something to think about. Live right out on the edge..., and then jump.
