you have a lot of postives in your stitch, do you know that?
Ask anyone who was around in my day whose marriage would be saved and my name was at or near the top of the list. It didn't work that way. But it was worth it to see it through. But if I could have done anything differently, I would have spent much more time making myself happy and less time wondering where things stood. This doesn't mean that anyone should call it quits. Rather, I believe that all the wondering and all the reading and all the consternation was detrimental to any chance for success I had. We have no control over that other person. We do, however, have control over ourselves and our dreams, needs, and desires. Pursuing those things are more likely to make us more attractive to another.
still,
This is a tough time. Accept the positive. Don't dwell on them. Be aware of where your H is, but don't try to get when he will be out of it. It becomes wasted time and energy. I do recognize that you can't help but to be distracted by all of this nonsense But if you put in mind what you want for yourself regardless of who is or is not in your life, you will speed up the happiness process.
