It does seem that they get to have the "fun" with the kids sometimes. I've gotten into a habit of doing chores either with the kids (mine are usually helpful) or when they're gone/asleep. This frees up weekend time for us to do things.
Please do not take my next words as criticism, but I noticed you registered in Feb. of this year. While I can appreciate that this has probably been going on for awhile, the trade off looks like about 6 months for 23 years. Yes, you decide, but I wouldn't consider myself even a decent bb buddy if I didn't point it out. Are your re-evaluating then or is that all you think you've got? Just a question, not meant to upset you.