Hi Jethro, This is becoming a busy place over the weekends. I have some catching up to do, but wanted to drop in to say...
Hang in there...
Each of us has to find their own way to work through this. I'm sorry the "tricks" others have mentioned haven't been to effective, but you will work through this. The tip JJ gave is a great one. Until I read it, I didn't really recognize I do the same, and did a lot of it this weekend. With my W's depression, I guess its easier to cast aside my thoughts in order to concentrate on lifting her spirits.
It also helps to recognize the baby steps for what they are. The way you described the vacuum incident, I preceive that she does understand you are hurting bad, but she also admires and appreciates the effort you are putting forth to work on putting it behind you.
