I think sometime it is guilt appeasement the contact. I think seeing it as a change depends on the situation. Mine would and has txt for no reason the whole time. I avoid answering personal questions about me. my health, or what I do.....those are off limits.
Why? I would not hesitate to tell my H about my health which I already have. I guess I figure he is still my H, we are not going thru a divorce and he has a right to know about my health. I do not ask him about OW that kind of stuff so that is off limits in my book.
We get along and we seem to be able to handle the everyday conversations but I will not engage in R matters at this time. As long as he is under the spell of OW, no way. She hates me so much and I think she is trying to do anything in her power to push me over the edge. It is not working is it? How do I know she hates me? H said so and he has told the kids. Sure she hates me because I have not filed for divorce. And I am not going to either. And he would have done it long ago if he really wanted one.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
