I saw on bflymom's thread you have to book "how to improve your marriage without talking about it", but didn't see how it would help. I just wanted to encourage you to go ahead and read it even if you can't apply (at least I haven't figured out how ...YET) some of it. What they have to say about "shame" and "fear" I found valuable and will be able to use regardless of how this all turns out. Just in my everyday interactions with men.
