Hi MOJO

You cant apply my logic to you. Sorry. Its trying to apply the wrong theorem. Here is why.

Your spouse didnt leave you. He didnt suggest it. He just went along with it.

Since you are the intelligent intuitive female, and you left, I would say your H is in my not worthy camp. Not you. He didnt say you were a bad wife. He just said you were selfish, (true) and no man can handle you. Thats highly debateable. x on the other hand never impinged on my ability to handle women, or even her desire to be handled by me, she just said I was a crappy H, who she couldnt see a stable secure future with. Im sure you can relate to that feeling.

d) The fact that I was indeed a bad wife (of the deplete all manly energy variety) was made obvious by the fact that I left my X such a waste case at the end of our relationship that he had to check himself into a mental health facility.
 since you know my opinion of the mans responsibilities, not to mention certain other truths you know about your sitch, your d) logic is only getting an :eyeroll:

I would add the additional evidence that the reason "no man can handle me" is that I will always be trying to get a man to "top my top" and therefore make the fact that "no man can handle me" a foregone conclusion.
I dont suggest you stop doing that at your place in the game right now, but long term its going to be as self defeating to you as it would for me to continuing my 'do nothing'. And I thank you for helping me see that, again. Because its hard to hold on to that feeling that Im only disserving myself. Being able to post to Choco was good for me.
Trust me I know how you feel. I dont want to let go of my entitlements either. You dont mind getting all gussied up now, but you want to be accepted for your pilgrim soul. (I always thought of pilgrims as being pretty anti-sex...) I understand a woman wants her man to be all he can be, but 'toping your top' is not giving the acceptance you want.

I'll go with the one new notch on my lipstick case for each year of SSM recovery rule.
 20 notches doesnt take nearly as long so... if that works for you, best of luck. Just take matters into your own hands and bring your own jacket. dont rely on anyone else to ward off a chill.

D*mn you for dragging me out of lurker mode and thereby making me break even the minor commitment to myself to stay away from this addictive BB until I get my act together.

**pause to strut and flex in the mirror ** Gosh, you give me so much power.It would almost make me if it werent for the meglamanical complex your forcing me to have. If my head gets any bigger its going to attract orbiting objects. not. Nice try.
I wanted some more good stories and original analogies. I needed a laugh. So I had to make you. Im selfish like that.

in the future I must wander the sexual landscape only making superficial connections of the monkey-to-monkey variety. I believe those are called Fellow Bonobo's
If thats what you want, but you are not your sister. Choose what you want. There are no musts. be Just Jenny.
Now off with you and be the reason some other literary Match monkey realizies his virtual lions roar is actually a IRL kitty cat meow.