I remember the first time my H actually did cuddle me in the morning and I felt the "poke" - I was like a child on Christmas morning I was so excited. I know of the feeling when newly M, a "poke" is accepted with joy, then after 12+ years, when a poke meets with rejection.
I am not saying I know how anyone else feels but saying my heart is sad when the "poke" leads to feelings of personal rejection.
I just bought a book “Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After sixty” by Joan Price. Aside from the “Over Sixty” part, I was wondering if your H would read something like that. My thoughts were if he saw what women wrote about liking sex at an age when supposedly they don’t want sex, he might see for himself, what you might be feeling. He might see sex is important to the women in the book and think “well my W might be like that too. He might not like sex that much but wouldn’t mind making you happier.
I haven’t read the whole book, so can’t comment on it right now. I don’t know why I am reading it to be totally honest. My W/BB doesn’t read books about people, just dog books. I was hoping to learn a few medical reason for the decline in sexual drive and hoped there is some advise to overcome the medical problems.
In your case, I still think some guys have heard too many "girl's don't like" and "good guys don't ask or do....." along with lots of what Lil called "ick factor" thinking, some guys have.
