Choc - my first piece of advice for you after reading your old thread is: get Divorce Remedy and read it. There is so much in there that will help you.

And next - slooowww down. It took 5 years to get to this point, you aren't going to fix it in a day or a week. And if you try, you will quite likely push your W in the OPPOSITE direction. I know it's hard to believe but I've seen it so many times.

Try not to obsess on the EA thing. If you make yourself the more attractive option she will be drawn to you, not to him.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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