Well, last night we decided I would take dd to a friend's house with me (her choice) and ds would stay home with Joey. I made a simple dinner and we ate really quickly before we left. (We were at the table and eating and he was on the couch with a beer and his arm over his face. I called him and he finally came.)
I was cheerful and upbeat. Kids were being cute, which helped us to laugh together. I sent dd on an errand in the other room and asked Joey for a hug. He stood (somewhat reluctantly) and gave me a hug. I gave him a firm hug and rubbed his back a little, then I said something like, "Joey, I am sorry that you're hurting. I want you to know I care about that." pause "When you are feeling like this and you are full of all the emotions and the anger, it sometimes gets to me too, then I'm full of anger. Can you tell me, are you trying to get over it?" He said, "As best as I *can*." I just hugged him again and said I was glad to hear that.
Our goodbye was then a bit more pleasant, and within a few minutes I was off. I was gone till nearly 11. He and baby boy were asleep of course.
This morning, he kissed me goodbye, but it was a different longer kiss, I pulled him in for a strong hug and we made eye contact and I smiled at him. So I guess that was good progress.
Not sure what to do next with us. Should I initiate the sex again? I don't really want to right now. Maybe in a few days?
