I know that this probably sounds like a bunch of crap, but it might be something to keep in mind, and to give a try sometime.
Let your actions guide your feelings. Don't let your feelings guide your actions.
What does this mean? It means that during those times when you're beginning to "not feeling loving" towards her, do a loving action.
Do something loving towards her. Go up and give her a tight, honest hug. Get her a cup of coffee. DO something that will help to diffuse those "un-loving" thoughts.
Do it quickly, at the beginning of your un-loving feelings. It might not take them all away, and it might not work all of the time, but it CAN work.
It feels mighty uncomfortable, and mighty unnatural, but it might work to help to take you closer to your goals.
Just a thought, but DO keep it in mind.
Again,
Let your actions guide your feelings. Don't let your feelings guide your actions.
JJ
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