I understand that she may get angry, etc., but what I needed was a good slap upside the head. You need to try to get her to understand the depth to which she is hurting you and explain the feelings of rejection you are getting. She is most likely NOT getting any of this and does not understand what she's really doing to you and your R/M.
Thanks Cadesmom... that's good insight that I'll definitely try to act on. I appreciate you taking the time to tell me what it's like from the other side of the fence, as it were.
I should get you to call my W and tell her the same!! Heh.
In all honesty, though, I actually think she's *totally* oblivious to what this is doing to me. She's always been a little selfish about a lot of things - something her family have always joked about... there's a couple segments in the book that I've read this afternoon that I think would make her sit up and take notice...
