Whore/Madonna

[COG]

GEL,

Well I was gonna come back and pull rank with you but I see that you've been on this board almost as long as I have.

Hey, I'm sorry for being insensitive about this. Part of me just doesn't agree with putting all the eggs in one basket so to speak. Doesn't believe it's ever only one persons problem. "I'm OK, my S is messed up; therefore I can relax and fix their ass" just does'nt sit well in part of my heart.

On the other hand, I can relate to what you're saying. It takes a lot of stress off when we step back and realize that it's really not my problem. I'm OK, and my S has the problem. And that's probably very true in both of your cases. But I just want to remind you gal's that it's still real important for you both to contemplate what YOU both can do to improve your sitch's, and not just put all the blame and responsibility on your H's.

And you are right. I have no friggin idea what M/W complex or whatever is, and I certainly don't have it, and I wish your H's did'nt have it, and I hope they get the hell through with it so they can get up to business.

Love,

COG