I also stayed away for a while, it helps sometimes... and sometimes (like now) I come over here and remember where I came from, and get nuggets of wisdom...
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we can really make more misery for ourselves (and we, of all people, don't need any more than we got!) by insisting that everything happen the way we think it should.
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... and get back on the horse stronger.
I totally agree with your next to last statement, my M is much better now, and I can truly be happy without carrying on resentment and misery.


Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.