New here from MLC board - Need Advice

[cat03]

have you guys gone to C at all? would he go? I dont' where I'd be without my awesome C.

It is hard for them to cut the cord. I didnt' know it, but after my H came back he had some contact w/ow, she wanted a job at my H's new job and he was the one taking the calls (I found out later by seeing her job application and notes he'd written her)

We'd been together jsut 3 or 4 mths, and it seemed he wanted to be w/me for good (I didnt' know of ow 'til much later), so it took my breath away to learn that he had contact w/her a few times, despite the crapy way she treated him, he still wanted to look good in her eyes (he actually had a note saying that he had divorced me and was buying his own place, he wanted to keep the lie about us so his old web of lies would'be discovered)
Guess our H didnt' want to look weak and felt they "wronged" the ow, it is text book hon.

The new job also help my H find direction, since a job defines a man, he had a different focus and was able to move forward. My H can also get focuses on things and loose his head, it is because he has ADHD, they have a tendency to be that way.

Anyways, stay strong, remember that all the obstacles in your way are like a dragon, stay strong and slay it, refuse to give in to fear.