Sol, strike while the irons hot! If she's in a remorseful mood, then hit her with the counselling idea. Don't wait for the cycle to get going again, nip it now. Step up and do something different. If you want to work this out then you do have to let go of this obsession with wanting her to confess the A. It won't happen. You must get by this. Do the work where she's willing to start, but start. Don't bother reading into anything, that is reactive. Be proactive. Now, does she have a point re you causing her problems at her workplace? I venture to say YES. If I recall, you told us that you talked to her supervisor about the possibility of an A between your W and the OM. So, she has a right to be royally pissed at that. Do you agree? If so, say "Yes, you are right. I was wrong to have done that. I apologize." Take the wind out of her sails. Then say "what do we want instead" point the conversation towards the future instead of dwelling in all sh!t that has just passed. Re-hashing that endlessly will just lead to blame talk, defensiveness, anger and more of the same. Gotta run. But, that's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
