Wife hits me.....need help....

[~Sol]

W had a talk with me this morning..no need to go somewhere else for the night, but I do have someplace with a good Navy friend who is church-going and has a stable family.

She was extremely calm, and told me she wasn't fighting, but talking.

THAT is a first. I was stunned.

Then she told me she was upset that I told rumors about her having a "lover". A red flag went up, and I thought she was trying to bait me on the spot, but I responded that I am jealous, and because of that I have acted in those ways. The convo didn't get too far as I had to leave for work. She brought this up because she told me people at work are "talking", but she is really just dwelling on the emails OM sent her, and she can't get that out of her head...

Anyway, it ended there, she was trying to get me upset, so I left. She was getting emotional herself and I knew now was not the time to have this talk....but she did initiate it, and she is talking about it now. Our issues are getting out on the table, slowly but surely. And I am still firm about what I want out of this M.

I called her later from work to talk about some other small issues like bills, and at the end of the phone call she says ILY. She was calm and soft in her tone.

So that's the current update....

Oh, wife also said this to me that I thought was noteworthy....

She said something that bugged me - she said "Whatever happens between us - you should keep doing your art, use your talent."......