Hey everyone!

Quoting cooper:
I won't scold you for snooping...sometimes we just get the best of ourselves. I think maybe you should take off for a few days. Tell her you want to get away to relax.
Thanks for the visit, cooper. Yes, getting away for a few days might be very therapeutic for me. I'm thinking along the lines of some nice, relaxing, Yoga retreat in the mountains. A place I can meditate, read a lot, and get my head straight to redouble my DBing efforts!

Quoting U:
If you really need to get away, let me know. You can come hang at my pad for awhile. You can even bring your D if W needs some time alone. I've got more toys around here than she can handle.
Jim, thanks for that invite. I've been thinking about it. Thing is, my sister just had some serious surgery, so I kind of want to gauge what's going on on that front. Also, my S (9) would be upset if I only brought my little girl. I was actually thinking of coming by myself really...although, it would do the W good to have some time to herself.

Quoting RJJ:
Come on over, any time!
RJJ, you're such a sweetie! I probably would if you were not 2500 miles away!

Quoting KAW:
she is teetering on the fence not sure which side she wants to be on. Refocus on your DBing. Time to get back to doing what worked to draw her closer and making sure the change you made is consistant and unwavering while allowing time to heal. You need to find your way back to enjoying the time you have and working towards making each day better than day before.
I fully agree, KAW. I just needed to hear it from someone else. It's time to go back to DR, Chapter 1. The only thing (and a big thing) I've achieved to date is getting my W to refocus on our M (kind of). She is watching me closely for the changes, but I don't know why? I mean, really. Why are these changes so important to her? I'm really trying to understand. Do you think it's because she wants me to be the strong one in this situation...be the rock that brings everything together? Hmmmm...that would be like your sitch, KAW... Or maybe me being a stronger person will make it easier for her to leave...

Quoting LL:
eventually you learn it never ever ever works for any good.
Already have.

Quoting LL:
this is all going to take a while, there will be up's and downs along the way.
I know. I have to keep telling myself that. You know, I wish I had a jet pack to hover next to the roller coaster that my W is on! Ahhh...detaching!

Just feeling kind of crummy today. My sister just had surgery, so I'm feeling concerned about her, and my W is in full WAW mode right now...very distant. This sucks!

jethro