Quoting jethro: I'm really interested in what you guys think about her watching ME???
No doubt there are alot of questions running through her mind about you. You also mentioned she sees the pain in your eyes. How long do you think she can live with looking into those eye and continue seeing the pain? In your short time DBing, she has noticed a lot of changes in you? Are they for real? Will they last? How will you change now that you know she had an A? Will that erase all the good changes you made? ... and so on ....
jethro, she is teetering on the fence not sure which side she wants to be on. Refocus on your DBing. Time to get back to doing what worked to draw her closer and making sure the change you made is consistant and unwavering while allowing time to heal. You need to find your way back to enjoying the time you have and working towards making each day better than day before. If that means allowing her space to deal with her, gladly let her have it. You said you are getting better at recogninze when she needs it, that's good.