I'm meeting with my wife today to exchange mail/bills/checks etc. We're having lunch at a "visible" place.
She and I haven't talked any lately. Only when she called to ask me how to deal with my mother's request to talk with her. I suggested that we have lunch to exchange stuff. She said that she "had something" for me. Not sure what it is, but at one point she said that she was working on a "letter" to me.
Regarding her email to my mother (posted above) and her wanting me to tell her what to doing.... I'm going to just tell her that it's up to her -- she can talk with my mother if she wants to. That I'm not going to make that decision for her.
I think me not calling and wanting to see her has puzzled her some. Not pushing and begging, just letting go. It's been a 180 for me. Hopefully she's not feeling pressured and is thinking about me more and hopefully in a good way.
I know I keep asking why divorce is her solution -- but I really don't know why. I keep looking for the answer. As NOPkins said, I need to find out why she needs to divorce me. I don't think she's seeing anyone else. She says she's not seeing anyone else, and I can't find any evidence that she is. I think she's really thought about our relationship and it's a hard decision for her. I think it may just boil down to being a "trust" issue. Can she trust me to be the man she wants? Will I take her serious and will it continue?
I'm feeling much more confident now days. I know that I can make it with or without her. I'm changing back to the person I was 15 years ago. Getting better focused on my life, business, etc.
Moving back into the house turned out to not be as painful as I was expecting. I'm making some changes at home. Cleaning up and organizing. I've been collecting some of the stuff she left, but don't have any plans to ask her to get it.
She wants to know about getting one of our cats. He seems happy here, but he does love my wife best. The other two cats and my dog are staying with me. I may let her come get the cat she wants -- I may try to put it off some more.
I've heard thru friends that her mother is coming down for the holiday weekend at the end of the month. (MIL lives about 14 hours away.) Not sure if that's a good sign or not. The MIL can be a rather jealous person -- often I have felt that she was jealous of me -- taking time away from her. However, I know that she is also Christian and doesn't view divorce as a good thing. Hopefully she'll be a voice of reason.
Today, I'm planning to dress up more that usual. Working alone has let me get very casual. Going to wear khakis' and a white shirt with tie (tie, may be)... going back to what I would were when we were dating. I may bring back memories....
I'm going to be upbeat and listen. Not going to do any relationship talk. If she brings it up, I'll try to avoid it and/or just listen to her.
