SG,

Feel free to answer my questions to you in LFL's thread over here.

You don't really believe your ex'es BS about not being H material, do you?

Here are my choices.

a) believe that x was an intuitive and intelligent woman.
b) Believe that she was an idiot (what does that say about me for marring her though? I dont like that choice. \:\/ )
c) believe that women oof unknown intelligence and intuition, who really dont know me, are capable of making a better informed observation then said intuitive and intelligent x, who knew me for nearly a decade. a Decade. how pathetic a time is that for a marriage?

of those choices a) seems to coincide most closely with GELS recent comments and observation that she (a woman) should (parphrase) 'always trust her gut feeling'.

That sounds a lot like x saying, 'I dont know, I just have to go with my feelings.' Ok. I comprehend.

hence, my opinion + gels opinion + the grade I got on my last test = I am not good H material.

It doesnt matter what I believe. Even though I have it on good authority that I am incredibly attractive, not only do I not desire to be my H, belief is in the eye of the perceivor.

Add to that, x may have started her toe testing the waters EA prior to our seperation, but only started the A after we were seperated. She found this very important to clarify when wanting to reconcil. Unless I interpreted incorrectly, I believe you said that was acceptable. When you are a serial monogamist, Im sure it makes perfect sense. Im not, so it doesnt.

I keep coming up with black and white. Explain to me the gray.

A retentive memory is one of my life's curses.

Actually I think womens negative retentive memories are OUR curse. ;\) I really wouldnt want to lose the other estrogen created endowments as a cure though.
Not at all.