Quote: -------------------------------------------- Now I'm guessing that my plan is supposed to be . . . how did everyone state it recently? . . . "cherish" my wife? "Woo" her? "Validate" her? --------------------------------------------
You are going to start by slowly but inexorably inserting yourself into her life, and thereby, including her in yours.
You are going to do that by thinking before you act, and by being proactive when the need arises. You are going to learn, in short order, how to live what you started today. You are going to become that man that moved the relationship off center.
If you only managed a "one of" event, then good job, but to win, you become the man that your marriage needs - all the time.
Quote:"How do I do these things, without being needy/grabby?"
The same way you won her heart to begin with. That guy wasn't all needy and desperate. Think back.
Let patience and constancy become your mantra.
You become the hero.
As things come up on a daily (probably hourly) basis, just seek out help here. Do what seems sound to you, not necessarily what seems easy. You will eventually get used to standing on your own again.
The sleeper has awakened.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
