I have been away for awhile. I was so disgusted with my sitch and started to really dislike my H. I did reas Aud's thread. She seems so sweet. Wish the best for her. If I go dark or do anything, my H runs other way. He wouldn't think, gee something is bothering her, and try to be better. He would think I was being a bi*ch and run to the OW.
Anyways, the latest is this past Thursday, he did not come home all night. I had a bad feeling. I got a call from him saying he slept in his car in his work parking lot. I don't think this is true.
Now mind you all the while I have been Dbusting. Never giving up... still he grows farther and farther away calling OW 3 or 4 times a day, her same amount of returning calls, of course, who's got time to call me, not him, maybe once a day if even. It has gotten back to the way is was before. I had no hope left...
I gave him another ultimatum and let him know i have been watching the amount of phone calls and him seeing her and told him it is unacceptable. I told him not to come home with her unless he totally ends it with OW. NO MORE CONTACT! Told him he has gone back to what he was doing before and that he broke every promise ot me again. Told him I won't live this way while he backstabs me when I turn around, told him i would rather have enemies than a husband like that. Called her a litte bi*ch and she should see if it's ok with so and so's wife because he was still insisting he didn't want to lose his "friend" when he said that, I told him never to ever call her his friend to me and don't even mention her or the subject ever again!!!! She is a thorn in my side!
He called me a nazi for checking up on his phone calls. I said I have had enough and told him she was one of the reasons he lost his job and he is going to lose his family and asked him why did he come back and then do the same things when he knew what the boundaries were!
Well he came home and yesterday he was in such a bad mood and had such a bad tempertantrum with his truck I cant' even tell you.
I haven't seen phone calls to or from her today, but he is so stubborn, I know he is doing it some other way. There is no way I am going to believe he has stopped. Maybe this way by making it more difficult and make him be more sneaky he will feel like a "turd".
Anyways, I am saving up money, our relationship has so much resentment between us I have no hope. When I feel I have saved up enough money, I will file again. I don't feel he loves us. He calls our oldest son Jacka*s now all the time. I can't stand my H too much anymore. He is an ugly person to me. How could I have married such a person. I so opposite than he. Did I just not see it? maybe, but he has gotten much worse with age and years of drinking and hanging with wrong people doesn't help either.
God Bless You All. Just wanted to give you and update. I will be checking your threads too, haven't been here in a while. Hope you are all doing well.
I think you need to get a good dose of love for you and work on detaching some more. You are stronger than you think and you need to focus on you and how wonderful you are. Your H is lost no and in the meantime if he ever comes to his senses or even if he never does you need to get strong for YOU!!!!!!
I will check on you again , but in the mean time start to focus more on you PLEASE~ God bless you honey...
You stood your ground and he still acts like a jerk, that's on him hon. You showed him that you are no doormat, that he can't have his cake and eat it too; as we've all learned in our trials by fire, sometimes it takes a good shake for us to shape up--your H has learned that you are not going let him disrespect you any longer.
Hugs, I'm sorry he is being so ugly now, stay strong hon))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
