Ok buddy, your slipping. You have got to back of the OM thing for awhile. If I was your W I would have felt like your were treating me like a child. You have got to get the "as if" trust going. You may not trust her right now but you need to act as if.
She is checking and testing. Did you ever see Jurassic Park? When the one dinosuars were constantly checking the electic fence. That is kind of what she is doing. She is looking for an opening to validate her "he hasnt change". My H did the same thing. He went x-mas shopping w/1st OW. Then made sure I found out about it.
