If the papers have been filed, then I believe you are somewhat protected finanically by the courts from your WAH from ruining your credit. He is probably the only one that can take you off the note, but I would seriously speak with a D Attorney about your situation.
Sorry that I could not be more help. Hope things get better!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids