NikkiB #15 (moving to Piecing)

[S.T. _I Made It!]

That is soooo cool Nikki! you know, it's aweful, I have the worst memory, and usually the memories I keep are the bad ones! so i can't remember when my H put his on again. I know I told him that when he put it on, that would tell me that he wanted to be M again.

You may just wait a little on the OW thing. he may have gotten the point and may slowly start doing what he needs to do.

But what OT said about him making plans instead and not inviting OW, is a really good idea. Then he's not "missing out" if that's how he feels.

I went back and forth on the "making H end it in front of me" thing. I know some counselors make their patients do that, but I seem to think that my DB counselor wasn't for doing that. In a way, it makes it seem like your their mommy telling them what to do, you know? I really wanted my H to do that for me, but I wasn't about to "make" him do it.

maybe think about what you think is best for your sitch and see if H makes any progress in the right direction regarding this. The ring might be a good sign