PS. Sorry, missed what you said in one of your posts, LFL. you said he emailed you after a long time of no contact about Iraq and if you are D'd (again, nice negative assumption to make after not talking to you for so long.)
So from your words you never initiated contact with OM since your reconcile nor have kept in touch. Okay.
He should still know better. I would consider blocking his email addy. out of respect for your H with H the first to know of any OM contact.
I hope you find some peace of mind, LFL. You've hung in there with your H even though you were hurt. That takes a pretty danged admirable person.
But ya gotta try and let go of 2004. He F'd up and he knows it. And it wasn't even in order to go off and bang his secretary or the like, which would have made your sitch 1,000x harder/more resentful.
You've come a long way. Maybe you can focus on how far you've already come instead of looking at how far away your level of happiness lies.
And you've helped me more than you can ever imagine with both your experience and how a woman with an addictive-compulsive personality (like x) thinks/acts.
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
