Quoting KAW:For what went on for at least three months, my W had an almost predicable weekly pattern of fluctuating between being kind and affectionate (seemingly being drawn back) versus distant and cold (and drifting further away).
KAW, I have a question. During this three-month stint, did your W ever verbally express her love for you? My point is that my W, even though shows affection, still won't say ILY. Now, it's not that I expect it, but even when she's affectionate she's guarded. It's like the wall is still there...just not a high sometimes. Darn it, it's hard to try and explain what I mean here. I guess what I'm asking is did you to go through these vacillations for three months--yes I want to be with you, no I don't--then suddenly, one day, the light bulb went on in her head and now she loves you? What exactly transpired over those three months (in terms of her behavior) to "bring her back?"
You see, my W keeps coming up with reasons why she doesn't love me the way she should. This pattern is NOT healthy, as far as I'm concerned, and would prefer that she change her effort to "making the decision" to love me. Yeah, I know, I have no control. In any case, was your W basically saying the same stuff?
I hope you understand what in God's name I'm asking about. It's kind of hard to put into words...
