For instance, if H cuddles up to me and (rarely) starts to get aroused. He will IMMEDIATELY turn over, make an excuse his leg hurts, back hurts, anything.
OH DEAR tell me that isn't true. I may have had some anxieties about some things, but that I don't understand the body pains.
The closest thing I can imagine is some timid, super reserved, germ-a-phobic guy in bed with a no holds bared woman and the guy sees the signs "she wants.........again?"
Maybe the first grade kids were right when they said "you let a girl/boy touch you? How gross."
Interesting concept, W/M. I see it is more than hang-ups when taken past some point/degree.
The most common thing I can relate to is: If I ask for something BB doesn’t like to do, (she had a small list at first of no-no’s, now the list is long) will she hold it against me or complain about it at some future date.
My situation is a lot different than yours. I was mostly trying to add some ideas to help your situation based on what I thought or experienced, during my earlier years. I do believe some guys mature, are more accepting of your wishes in this case, at a date later in life. That is if age/health related problems don't get to them first.
