Well. I cant believe you are 32 (like me). I thought you were older. Ok sounds like you have handled it. Just a couple of points.

Slow down. Her saying she wants to work on the M is a double edge sword. You are right about pushing. Her body might be back but her mind is wavering.

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But mostly, I need to work on myself. Because, honest to God, when it comes down to it, I don't know if this is going to work out. I feel less hopeful that it will, but I have to give it a try while working on improving myself. There's simply no other way. I actually feel okay with it and am not feeling too sorry for myself. If she won't give me a real R, then I will find someone that will eventually. For now, however, I need to be patient and understanding, validating and not pushing, and keep DBing my a$$ off!


I know you feel less hopeful but that may change w/tomorrow. I feel the same way that I need to work on myself. So if I end up moving on that I will have the R that want. Hopefully finding a person w/the same goal will happen too. You never know it could be our Ss.

I know I have more to say but there has been alot to digest so I think I will ponder this for awhile. Take care.Abby