You are on a hugh roller coaster...give her the space..whatever that may end up being..my h talked for several months about maybe leaving..I tried everything I could to make it all better here...walk on eggshells...don't talk about r..well that only seemed to make it worse and the bottom line was he was not going to move forward until he was able to leave...it has been 2 months yesterday...things are less tense...we do things together...have not had any r talks, but he told our kids this does not mean d...just that he needs to "find himself"who knows what the future holds...but do let her go if that is what she really think she needs..come here to vent...keep doing positive things for you.By the way the "older" thing is ok I am 47, it's not quite over the hill!! Sue
