I don't blame you for worrying I would too.Try not being Mysterious all of the time(no contact for 3 days) as it does seem to effect her eating patterns. Sounds like just what you are doing is working, you are doing great! Maybe writing her a letter and telling her she can write one back instead of talking in person might help. Concerned Listener gave me that idea and it worked for me.
jak58,
The no contact for 3 days was by pure chance. I didn't plan it out that way. However, like I said, I was shocked to hear her say that it was weird because she hadn't seen me in three days.
This has to be one of the hardest things that I have ever gone through. Sometimes I feel like I am walking on egg shells and other times I just go with the flow. It is so tough being in limbo not knowing if and when she is moving out. She originally told me that she planned on moving tbe first week of April. Obviously, it is now the middle of May.
The one thing that worries me is that the girl she is supposed to be moving in with graduates from college at the end of this week. I am assuming the "plan" was to move in together once her friend graduated. However, my GF has said NOTHING to me about when she intends on moving. It sucks coming home from work wondering if I will find packed boxes by the door.
Sometimes I also feel that I am being too much of a hard*** when it comes to being mysterious...not leaving notes or telling her I am going somewhere. While it does usually make her curious, sometimes I fear that it is going to push her away.
Since she felt that she didn't receive enough attention, I am making efforts to compliment her and at times go out of my way for her. For example, she was taking her car to my uncles this morning to have her radiator looked at. She has also had a headlight out for about a week now.
So yesterday after I got out of work, I picked up the headlight for her. I knew she wouldn't think of it and I didn't tell her I was picking it up. When she got home last night, she was surprised to find it on the kitchen table. She softly told me "Thank you" a couple times for picking it up for her. Granted it wasn't flowers or anything like that but it showed that I was listening to her when she told me that she needed a new headlight and it also showed I was thinking about her.
However, I am afraid to be "too nice" and have her think that I am smothering her. I don't think I have walked this fine of a line in my life. I also sometimes question if I am reading too much into the small things that she is doing and saying.
Well, if she is in a good mood after work I plan on telling her that I would like it if she would be my date to my friends wedding. I will let you know how it goes!
