For the most part, the kids are okay with her. She does yell at them too much. She needs to find better ways to communicate, because yelling at a teenager is not the best way to get through to them. She is just doing what was done in her family of origin. I would have thought the years of therapy would have helped her do better, but I can't see any real change in her behavior. At some point the kids will just default to my house if they don't get what they need from her. They will have more and more autonomy as they age and will basically be allowed to camp out at either place on their schedule, at some point. But D14 is already sick of the crap W puts her through, so for her it might be sooner rather than later.
I'm not at the point where I would try to stop her from seeing them. Again, most of the time she is fine. Under stress is another story. If there is any violence, this will change and I have said that in no uncertain terms to W.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
