We've gone over this before....it doesn't matter how we as their wives behave towards them. It's how they view us. COG, they don't WANT their wife to treat them like this "Treat them more like the wild men that they want to be and don't mother them. Be more elusive, less nuturing, stop feeding them, don't make the bed or do laundry, let them handle the finances, etc. Just do anything except mothering." FWIW, my H doesn't want to be a wild man. If I behaved that way (and believe me I could and have tried that before)...he wouldn't have chosen me to marry. Yeah, I'd have had sex, but he wouldn't have respected me and certainly wouldn't have married me.
He views a wife as ONE type of woman, and a woman you have sex with as a completely separate woman. In his mind the two women can never meet.
