Well, the ED issue makes things even more dicey, especially if he's trying to function outside his comfort zone anyway. The normally assertive stuff I'm looking for is comparable to a guy asking his wife for anal sex. I believe he sees it as that outre. It's not way high up on my radar at the moment, but I wanted to say to LFL that I understood. Sex with my bf has never been good... THAT was the red flag that I ignored in the beginning. Thanks for your comment, NOP.
