What gives? I skimmed some of your thread and saw you say you're in an upswing and happy.
Now OM emails. Whack. Knocks you back down.
IMO OM is a weasel.
I pegged you as a chick who wouldn't be into a weasel.
If I were going off to Iraq in the next week I could find no less than 12 single Fs to shag rotten. I don't need to lower myself to weasel status and wreck an M already on shaky ground.
Boo Fing hoo. I respect OM's dedication to our country. I don't respect his ambushing married F affair memries long since over.
Go sniff around single Fs weasel. God knows there are plenty out there.
As for you, LFL, I would stop focusing on what the odds are and try and find guidance from others' sitches.
There is another MC who cites a pretty big study on all aspects of an happy R. Ranking them 1-10 in diff. categories like SL, kids, Finances, companionshi[p etc. from thousands of M couples.
And what was the average state as to overall M happiness:
6.7
Or just above average. Try not to look for the perfect M; doesn't exist.
The only thing that matters is your commitment to stick it out for the long haul, better or worst.
And as for your email snooping from H. I think this would be very confusing and a mixed message. I can see your H thinking:
"If I say, yes, and start snooping then she'll just think, hmmm, he doesn't trust me. I guess I'll be under his suspicion for the rest of my life."
Hence he backs away from what he thinks is a test of his trust.
I seriously doubt he wants to look like a snooper. I also think he would rather trust you than to start reading your emails and have his worst fears come true as to what you say to other OMs.
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
