"My H does not see sex as an enjoyable or good thing."
Lou, this is very similar to my H's perspective as well. My H does enjoy having sex, the act of it...it feels good to him physically, but he was taught it was a dirty/disrespectful thing to do to a woman that he loves...so his mind doesn't let him go there. I can only imagine that for a man who does not have this perspective that it would be a difficult thing to wrap your brain around.
