Quoting your friend: ----------------------------------------------------------- The main thing I am stuck on is that I think the biggest problem is Joey’s inability/refusal to move on with the distant past, and this, to me, says there is no hope of things ever being made better/fixed/resolved. I don’t think you can do anything about it. It has to come from him and a desire to “get over it.” I don’t think he can/will. I don’t think he can or is willing to invest what I think you are willing to invest to keep the relationship together. I think he has issues you can’t help him with. I don’t like what I see and I don’t like what you’re going through. -----------------------------------------------------------
I can see that she cares about you. I have to disagree with her assessment, however.
Let me suggest a question for you to ask your husband at an appropriate time.
"Hubby, the {issue} keeps coming up and it causes both of us hurt feelings. I blow up at you because I don't understand, then you get angry at me because you can't express yourself. Please answer a question for me without getting mad so that I can better understand; Are you trying to get over this?"
I think you will get your answer, and maybe a place for you to set anchor.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
